Wednesday, 21 June 2017


Summer is the season where everyone starts to think about their body confidence. It's the time of year where skirts get shorter, swimwear is out, and generally more skin is on show (and unfortunately we can't get away with not shaving our legs for weeks)...but how does this leave us feeling? Both boys and girls have issues with body confidence, and I don't think anyone is 100% happy with how they look, but that's okay because we're all human and there are always positive changes which can be made. 

I feel as though there is a lot of pressure surrounding what your body 'should' look like. We now live in a world of filters and photoshop, so it's hard to define what is reality. However, everyone should feel happy in their own skin as no two bodies are the same, but each body is beautiful in it's own way. We should look to support and build confidence together, creating positivity and celebration of all curves, lumps and bumps. 

This Summer, I've tried to change my attitude towards my own body, and now see things in a much more positive way, which in turn will build and strengthen my confidence..and hopefully help other people too.

Everyone has their 'favourite' parts of their body - mine being my legs. I have accepted that I'll never have big boobs or a good cleavage, and that my bum is as flat as a pancake...but my legs have always been my confidence booster. Therefore, during Summer, I like to show my legs off rather than the top half of my body because I am most comfortable with them. Your favourite body parts become your assets, whether they be your boobs, arms, stomach, legs whatever...because they are what makes you happy about your body and gives you positive self confidence. Focus on these parts rather than the negatives and flaunt them to your heart's desire! If you feel good about certain areas, this will reflect on the way you carry yourself. 

People always say to try and step out of your comfort zone. I agree with this to some extent, because if you never try anything new then you'll never know what you like or dislike. However, if you're having body confidence issues, I think it's best to feel comfortable in what you're wearing. I used to wear a lot of tight/bodycon skirts and dresses in my teenage years, and whilst I'm only 23, I just don't feel comfortable in that kind of clothing anymore. I much prefer A-line skirts and flowy dresses compared with very figure hugging clothing...and that's not because I think I'm 'fat' or anything like that, but I feel as though my style has matured. I feel more sophisticated and elegant in something with a bit more shape to it, and think it flatters me a lot more - therefore making me feel much more comfortable. If you're comfortable in what you're wearing, then you aren't going to feel self conscious and your mind won't constantly be focussed on what you look like and you can enjoy your day. 

It's so so easy to compare yourself to others. I will hold my hands up and admit that I do it all the time, and that's mainly because of social media. I'm constantly scrolling through Instagram looking at the Victoria's Secret models and thinking 'why don't I look like that?'...but the truth is...most people don't. It's about being realistic with your body and being thankful for what you've been given. I've got quite short legs, and whilst I would love to be a 5"10' model, it's never going to happen because I can't physically change my height. Therefore, it's time to appreciate what I do have and focus on the positives. I'm thankful that I have a healthy body and that all of my limbs are fully functioning and I'm able to live a normal lifestyle - as some people aren't as lucky. It is hard not to compare yourself, but if you try to focus on your own body and work with what you've been given and focus on the positive aspects, you'll become a lot more content with who you are.  

A lot of the time, the parts of our body that give us low confidence, are parts that we CAN change. No I can't make my legs longer, and I can't make my boobs bigger, BUT I can make my body the best it can be. Eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly and keeping hydrated can make the most positive impacts on our body. There's only one person stopping you from improving the way your body looks and that's you. I'm not saying you have to go to the gym, loose weight etc etc...but making your body stronger internally and maintaining your health will shine through to the outside. If your energy levels are high, you will carry yourself better, be happier and have a more positive outlook. 

Since running the marathon in April, I haven't done any exercise at all, and to be honest, I don't feel good about myself. However, I have a holiday coming up in September which has given me the motivation to make some positive changes to my lifestyle. Sometimes it's good to set yourself a goal or have a target in mind, because this will give you that 'kick up the arse' that you might need. If you want something, you have to work for it - only you can make that change. 

There is not a 'normal' body shape. 
Everyone has their insecurities. 
Every body is different.
Don't be fooled by filters - that is not reality. 
Focus on the positives.
Boost and support others.
Be thankful for what you have.
Make the changes you want to make.
Learn to love yourself.


Dress - Zara
Bag - Accessorize
Sunglasses - Topshop
Sandals - Zara (old)
Bracelet - Pandora

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